Where You Focus, You Finish

Where You Focus, You Finish

What comes to mind when you think of the word “accountability?”

Probably something along the lines of, “I have a problem, and I need you to help me defeat it or get better.”

There’s nothing inherently wrong with being self aware of your own issues. After all, we are all one bad decision away from the worst day of our lives. Stupid is sticky. But when we focus on the broken, we finish on the broken.

What if we looked at accountability differently?

My 7th Grade Band Director Made Me Cry

My 7th Grade Band Director Made Me Cry

My 7th grade band director made me cry.

In 7th grade, I was the fat kid that quit football on the first day because I didn't’ want to run sprints. I didn’t fit in, I didn’t wear the right clothes or have the right friends, and I couldn’t even decide what instrument to play in the band.

One day my director made me cry because I couldn’t play the drums right, and I was mortified that everybody was seeing that I had no idea what i was doing.

Why Not?

Why Not?

If you knew that you could have your dream job, but in order to get it, you would have to tell a white lie, would you do it?

Most of us would want to instinctively say no, but if we are really honest with ourselves, a lot of us would have to think about it.


Maybe it depends on what the lie is? Maybe we could just put a positive spin on it so that it’s technically not a lie?

Success is not possible without integrity. You can win and not be successful. You can be undefeated and still be unsuccessful.

Don't Widen the Plate

Don't Widen the Plate

I once read a story about a retired baseball coach who spoke at a coaching convention. He had coached for decades and had retired recently, but he was the keynote speaker.

As he sauntered onto the stage the audience couldn't help but notice the full size home plate hanging from a string around his neck. It stayed there for the entire speech, but he never referenced it.


As he was closing, he finally mentioned it. He asked coaches at every level of the game, from t-ball to the major leagues, how wide home plate was.

For every single one of them, the answer was the same: 17 inches.

It's Time to Give Up

It's Time to Give Up

My biggest pet peeve is really simple:

People who complain about their situation, or their circumstances, but have refused to do anything to change the place they’re in.

I can’t process stories about someone who is unwilling to take action to change their circumstances, because let’s face it, whining is easier than working. Griping is easier than grinding.

Don't Flinch at the Impossible

Don't Flinch at the Impossible

You know those times in life when it seems like something is impossible? When you can’t possibly get over that obstacle that’s standing in your way?


Commander Mark Divine talks about not flinching in the face of the impossible.


Last year I ran the Spartan race. If you don't know what the Spartan race is, it’s basically a gigantic obstacle course with a 5k thrown in for good measure.

Sacrifice Required

Sacrifice Required

When it comes to reaching your goals and dreams, a lot of things are optional.

Talent is optional. There are a lot of successful people with very little talent.

Genetics are optional. There are a lot of “too short” players in the NBA, and there are a lot of “too small” players in the NFL.


Privilege is optional. It may help you get there, but you don’t have to come from the right place.

The one thing that is not optional is sacrifice.

While You Rest

While You Rest

I was recently talking with a hero of mine.

We were chatting about life and careers and work, and he told me a story of when he was a little boy. His dad would send him out to work the farm during the day, then at lunch time, would give him chores to do during his “break.”

It got me thinking about the value of rest, and how a lot of folks tend to have a skewed view of what rest actually is.

My Son Has a Girlfriend

 My Son Has a Girlfriend

My 5 year old son Harrison told me the other day that he has a girlfriend.

You can imagine my shock and surprise. He’s 5. He’s not supposed to have girlfriends yet.

So I pressed him a bit. I asked him some details about this girl and this is what he said. “She doesn’t be mean. She doesn’t take other people’s snacks. She’s 4 years old. She does everything the teacher says.”