What You Seek is Seeking You

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Summary of Main Ideas


I’ve heard it said before that interesting are those that find the world interesting.


We live in a world of self interest. 20 years ago, the front facing camera on a cell phone didn’t exist. Now we have entire apps dedicated to taking pictures of ourselves.


It’s really easy to get sucked in to the trap of narcissism and self-focus. We are hard wired to think about ourselves.


If you are seeking yourself, if you are only ever focused on you and what’s good for you and what’s best for you, that selfishness is going to find you.

But if you are living a life that is continually focused on others, one that seeks the best for others and seeks to find the interesting things in other people, then those people will in turn seek you out.


I often get asked in locker rooms how I come up with material for podcasts, or the 2Words curriculum.

My answer is simple: I’m not wise because of my age or my education. I’m wise because I look for wisdom everywhere. I seek wisdom out. I’m borderline obsessed with it.


Even if you are not religious in any way, I think the book of Proverbs is one of the best ways to make yourself a better leader, a better coach, and a better person. It’s literally a book of wisdom sayings.


Rest assured, the people in life who have the most answers are usually the people who have asked the most questions. They’re smarter than most people because they ask more from the world.


If all you’re focused on is yourself, all you’re going to get is selfishness.


Live a life focused on finding the best in others, and you’ll find the best for your life as well.



“If you want to be interesting, be interested.” Dale Carnegie

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it’s thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis

Reflection Questions

  1. Where do you need to get rid of selfish ambition and vain conceit in your life?

  2. How have you seen your life shaped by self focus? How can you break out of that?

  3. Where are you consistently seeking wisdom?

  4. Who are the people in your life that seek others, and how can you emulate them?