Summary of Main Ideas
What happens once you win?
I spent thirteen years of my life chasing down the dream of bench pressing 500 pounds. When I finally got there, when I finally lived out that dream, the satisfaction lasted about thirty seconds.
Then I wanted to bench press 550 pounds.
Be it in sports, life, your hobbies, or your career, winning can be a greedy mistress, and she always wants more. No matter what we achieve, if our motivation is winning, we will always want more and never be satisfied.
When you watch post game interviews at the Super Bowl, they always ask the players, “What’s next?” and the answers are always the same. They always go something like, “We are gonna take a few days off, then get back in the gym and get ready for next season.”
Winning isn’t enough.
Always chasing the carrot that’s just a little bit out of reach will get you nowhere in life because the carrot will always be there, and you’ll never get it. If the carrot is what drives you, you will spend your life chasing it.
But if we’re not driven by the carrot in front of us, but the purpose inside of us then we don't need the carrot. We’re going to compete because it’s what we love to do.
I would do what i do whether or not i ever got paid for it. Because i love it. In fact, for seven years, I did what I’m doing for free. I spent time in High School locker rooms interacting with coaches and players not because someone was paying me, but because I loved it.
Are you obsessed with the process of your life? Are you obsessed not with winning, but with the process of living life? It doesn’t have to be your work. It could be family, hobby, art, coaching, etc.
I don’t want to live in a “then what” mindset. I want to live every day obsessed with life. Will you join me?
“It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” Dale Carnegie
“Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough” Oprah Winfrey
Think about the thing that you are chasing with all your heart. Would you do it if you didn’t get paid for it?
Where do you need to get off the treadmill, put away the carrot, and listen to the motivation inside of you?
Where have you found yourself getting burned out from chasing the carrot?
Who are people in your life that are obsessed with the process of life, and how can you emulate them?
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