My 7th Grade Band Director Made Me Cry

Summary of Main Ideas

My 7th grade band director made me cry.

In 7th grade, I was the fat kid that quit football on the first day because I didn't’ want to run sprints. I didn’t fit in, I didn’t wear the right clothes or have the right friends, and I couldn’t even decide what instrument to play in the band.


One day my director made me cry because I couldn’t play the drums right, and I was mortified that everybody was seeing that I had no idea what i was doing.


In a lot of ways, that fat kid crying in the band room, is the same kid that now often times lives for retweets, or speaking fees, or recognition.


The fears of my inner child influence my adult ambitions.


I get my priorities so far out of whack so often. I focus on becoming a highly paid speaker, or having a successful podcast, or getting thousands of retweets, and when that doesn’t happen, the fear that I felt back in 7th grade begins to creep back in.


Those days when I focus on validation and recognition are some of the worst days of my life.

But the days when my priorities are straight, the days when I’m focused on helping people instead of being recognized by people, those are the best days.

Those are the days that I will drive 4 hours to speak for 20 minutes, get paid with a t-shirt, and love every single minute of it.


Take a look at your ambitions, your attitudes, and your actions. Are they lining up with your core values? If they aren’t, you better hit the brakes and you better hit them quick.


But if they do line up, get ready for good things. When you are doing live from the heart, in line with your core values, good things are just around the corner, so keep your head on a swivel.


This week, I want you to download or buy Jon Gordon’s book, “The Seed.” I promise it’s going to impact your life in a major way.


"In the end, it doesn’t matter how well we have performed or what we have accomplished—a life without heart is not worth living." John Eldridge

“Regardless of your age or station in life, it all comes down to one simple truth: you just have to start.” Jon Acuff

Reflection Questions

  1. When nobody else is watching, what is it that you really want out of life?

  2. Do your actions, attitudes, and ambitions, line up with your core values?

  3. Spend some time this week thinking about your ambitions. What is it that truly gets you out of bed in the morning?

  4. Where are you letting fear win, and how can you punch that fear in the face this week?