Summary of Main Ideas
The 3 Little Pigs taught me what it really meant to be present with my family.
The other night, as I was putting Jane to bed, we were going through our routine. We put on blankets, and then right as I was about to walk out of the room she said, “Just one more thing.”
She then told me a story. This one happened to be about her friend Olivia, and what they had done that day.
As I kissed her and began to walk out, she said again, “Just one more thing Dad” and proceeded to make up a different story.
There are times when this is so incredibly frustrating because all I want to do is go work on a book or podcast or something else.
But this night, I asked Jane if she wanted me to tell her a story, so I told her the story of the 3 Little Pigs for about the thousandth time.
As I finished the story, she got this look of complete peace on her face and said, “Goodnight Daddy,”
It was in that moment, I was acutely aware of what it meant to be present. Jane just wanted me to hang out with her because bedtime is the only time she gets me completely to herself.
To say yes to something like dishes or working out or podcasting, is to say no to something else, and in this case, the thing I was saying no to was Jane.
Why on earth would I say yes to dishes if by doing so it meant saying no to Jane?
When you say yes to something, you’re automatically saying no to something else, and vice versa.
So think about your life. What are you saying no to without even meaning to?
Is it a quiet time? A daily workout? A healthy breakfast? When you say yes to Netflix, or scrolling social media, or sleeping in, you’re saying no to all those other things.
So make good decisions, and give your yes to what matters.
“Every yes is a no. And every no is a yes.”
“Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.” Matthew 5:37
What are 5 things that you want to say yes to, but regularly say no to?
What are saying yes to instead of the thing that you really want to say yes to?
Think of the last time you fully said yes to the thing that you really wanted. How did that feel?
Are you making a habit out of saying no to your kids by saying yes to other less important things?