I recently heard the craziest statistic.
90% of the time that you will spend with your kids happens within their first 18 years of life.
Stop and think about that for a minute. If you have a six year old, that means that ⅓ of that time is gone. You can’t get it back. That time is over.
How much of that time have I spent doing things that didn’t matter? Or things that I didn’t even want to be doing?
I’ve got my own set of core values, and the very first one, the one that I place above all the others, is presence. Emotional presence, physical presence, whatever it takes. I don’t want my family to have a memory that I’m not in. I want my kids to be able to say “Dad was always there.”
Much like the bumpers in bowling keep you in the lane, core values keep you on track. They serve as the bumpers of your life to make sure that you stay moving towards where you want to be headed.
I am the worst at multitasking. I can only give so much of myself, and eventually I get tunnel vision. I get so focused on something that I can’t put it down.
We can’t only be present when things are going well, we have to be present emotionally, physically, spiritually when things aren’t going right.
Start living as if your days are numbered. I’m convinced that so many of us waste our time because we don’t realize that our days are numbered. We don’t realize that we have a finite amount of time here on earth, and we never get it back.
I’ve started practicing two things in my life to be more present:
1. When I come home, I turn my phone off for 30 minutes. Not just keep it in my pocket, but power it off and put it in another room.
2. I’ve started sitting in silence at the beginning of each day. Not as some mystical yoga thing, but just to spend some time with my own feelings and thoughts.
We get 90 years here if we’re lucky. That’s 90 Super Bowls. Or 22 Summer Olympic Games.
What are you doing with your time? How are you being present with your families?
"Be where your feet are." Brian Cain
“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.” Wayne Dyer
What are you giving your attention to that doesn’t need it?
When was the last time that you turned your phone completely off and spent an entire day with your family?
Do your kids have more memories that you’re not in than ones that you are?
How different would your life look if you took time seriously and started living life as if your days were actually numbered?
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