Summary of Main Ideas
One of the damaging lies our culture has taught is that what we do in private will remain there.
It has become so easy to buy the lie that our private lives and public lives will always remain separate. As long as we’re not found out, and we’re not hurting anybody, it’s not big deal.
No harm, no foul. Right?
We act out of the overflow of our hearts. What we do is a physical manifestation of what we believe.
If our actions do not reflect our beliefs, then we do not have the beliefs that we claim.
1. When you have deceptive behavior, you will be exposed
We see this every time a celebrities iPhone gets hacked and compromising photos get shared on the internet. Or every time someone gets busted having an affair.
We are not as good of liars as we think we are, and deceptive behavior will always be brought to light. Your coworkers, teammates, and loved ones will always find out.
We have to live a life that is above reproach. The cure to deceptive behavior is transparent behavior. Live in such a way so that nobody could ever say anything damaging or accusatory about you.
2. When you have a destructive behavior, you will always implode.
Destructive behavior destroys us from the inside out, and it’s not always easy to see.
If your loved ones are continually talking to you about a behavior that they see as destructive, be it drugs, alcohol, pornography, spending, whatever it is, and you are rationalizing it away, that’s your first red flag that it is destroying you and you are about to implode.
3. When you have a defeated behavior, you will always erode.
A defeated mindset will always lead to bitterness, and bitterness will eat away at your impact, your influence, and your identity.
A defeated behavior may sound like, “If my wife just understood me like THEY do….” or “if my husband just encouraged me like he does his players….” or “if things were just THAT way….”
Jealousy leads to bitterness, and the cure for jealousy is always humility. Be humble. Maybe it’s not your time. Maybe someone else is being blessed with something and your job right now is to encourage them and edify them.
Nobody can ever take away our character. Nobody can ever cause us to lose our humility. They are choices that we make every day.
A disciplined life leads to a successful life. When we buy the lie that our private lives will remain private, we are rejecting the cure for deceptive, destructive, and defeated behaviors.
“Your private life will always become your public life.” Stephen Mackey
“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” Luke 6:45
Take a minute and analyze your life. Where do you see deceptive, destructive, or defeated behaviors?
How might you be able to refocus those behaviors into a disciplined life?
Are there areas in your life, that if they were made public, would bring shame and embarrassment on you?
Who do you need to talk with about those private behaviors before they take over and destroy your public life?
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